Just as men and women are created differently, so we also hear honor differently. The core issue for most women is security. Not security in terms of having a home alarm or body guards around her, but security when it comes to the relationship. Women are much more relationally attuned in general than men are and they want to know that they can trust you as their husband to relationally connected and engage. When she knows she can trust you and that you are faithful to her not just sexually but also emotionally and relationally so that she feels cherished and at the top of your priority list, she will be able to rest in your relationship.
If, however, your wife ever feels like she can't trust you or your are more in love with work or hobbies than you are with her, you are beginning to shake that foundation of security that every woman needs and you are creating conflict and trouble for yourself. So be sure to take time to connect with her on a regular basis. Listen to her talk about her day and be able to remember some of the details that are important to her (I say some because most of us men get lost in the details :). Let her know that you do actually think about her from time to time outside the times when you want to connect physically. When you say you will do something, follow through and make it happen so she knows she can count on you and most importantly, that you think she is important enough to help.
When a woman feels honored and cherished by her husband she is able to rest and feels secure in the relationship. When a woman feels secure in a relationship she is much more responsive to her husband both in thought and deed (and this does include sex men!). So be sure to do whatever it takes to build the security your wife needs in the marriage. When you do this well, you will experience more of what you had when you were dating and she in turn will honor you.